When you're born dead, do you have a birthday?
I've been very careful of my language. In the hospital, we were very careful to use the word "delivery" instead of "birth."
November 6th, 2014. My mom said it would probably be the worst day of our lives. I told her "But that's also the only day we got with her, that's the day we got to hold her all afternoon." Is this the day we'll remember her by?
December 12th, 2014. We scheduled our c-section a few months ago. My doctor thought it would help my anxiety to know when exactly the baby would be coming. We chose the 12th because Ben was born on 4/4/13. Kids born on 4/4/13 and 12/12/14 felt pretty cool. And I figured if I had to have a scheduled c-section, one positive thing was getting some amount of control over my child's birthday. Do you know how hard December 12, 2014 is going to be for us?
December 18, 2014. Her due date.